How to Ghost Like an Adult
Ghosting someone is so cringe. Instead of acting like adults and explaining our loss of interest in a romantic interest or friendship, we take the coward’s way out and disappear completely. Blame it on the lack of etiquette imbued in us through faceless interactions on social media, bleeding out into the real world or a seemingly indispensable cache of friends, but most millennials or Zoomers can’t be bothered to unfriend someone properly. It’s uncouth, to say the least, and borderline sociopathic at its rarest incarnation. Regardless of why we suddenly go radio silent in our interpersonal relationships, we owe it to our personal development and the feelings of others to elaborate on our short attention spans if we want to end the never-ending cycle of regifting personal baggage. Ghosting also has a dark side; no one lives in an unpoppable bubble. Jilted friends or prospects can turn vindictive and expose you at your most vulnerable moments. Letting others down easy with good social graces preserves your sanity, as well as the feelings of others. Still, is there a time and place for ghosting? Or should it be your emotional leverage of last resort when an admirer turns into a delusional stalker?
Letting Them Down Easy
Before regurgitating your pent-up feelings as word vomit left for the unrequited love to spend countless hours trying to decipher before muddling in a puddle of self-guilt and pity, take some personal inventory to better yourself. We’ve all been rejected at least once in our lives. Even celebrities who look like Greek gods sculpted from marble have received a few “thanks, but no thanks” texts in their magazine-cover-worthy dating escapades. How did you feel the first time you were ghosted for no apparent reason? It’s a demoralizing experience leading you to overanalyze and nitpick who you are as a person. Imagine how your recent Tinder match must feel when you swipe right, producing an instant match, only to immediately un-match with them mere minutes later. Navigating complex intrapersonal relationships is a hard-earned skill. It’s essential to be direct when ceasing communication, and you should never allow room for interpretation that might suggest reconciliation is on the horizon for the overzealous rejected party. Not everyone is tech-savvy or hip to the day’s lingo. Don’t mince words when breaking things off with your childhood bestie. Be polite, but be direct.
When Ghosting Turns Into a Haunting
Not everyone takes rejection in stride. Some take being blocked online to a physical banishment. It’s attack on every fiber of their being leaving people dejected and seething with revenge. What’s worse is that ghosting can have the complete opposite effect. Instead of ridding their unwanted presence, you might unknowingly trigger their innermost insecurities turning an otherwise harmless interaction into a full-fledged stalking nightmare. It’s not uncommon for the object of ghostings to become obsessed by creating an army of fake profiles to continue the online harassment that could lead to some pretty uncomfortable confrontations. The afflicted might even lead a nasty smear campaign against you by doctoring fake texts and pictures to paint you as some sort of sadistic narcissist.
When All Else Fails, Go Ghost Mode
Still, not everyone can take a hint. Ok, so let’s say letting them down easy didn’t work and they won’t take ‘no’ for an answer? Proving a case of stalking to the police isn’t easy, and most agencies have yet to take Internet crimes with the same gravity as real-world confrontations. What do you do? Believe it or not, safe places aren’t a fairy tale. While there’s no expectation of privacy in public, you can still retreat to a permanent safe place impervious to every imaginable threat. After all, not everyone deserves good social graces – burglars and home intruders should top everyone’s blocked list. And should an online stalker ever decide to make their presence known at your home, you’ll want to be on top of your hide-and-seek game like your life depends on it because, trust us, it will. Where will you go? Our panelized steel safe room kits are the ultimate form of ghosting. You’ll be virtually invisible once inside a hidden panelized steel fortress. These panelized kits can be easily and discreetly retrofitted into any home office or bedroom with minimal disturbance to the surrounding foundation. (Some creative customers have used bookcases or trap doors to conceal their entryways). Our safe rooms not only help you go full ghost mode, but they’re also good at withstanding violent weather events like hurricanes and tornadoes. While we can’t help you become a more effective communicator, we can help you set permanent steel boundaries from toxic people leaking into your home. Contact us today for a free consultation and take advantage of our reduced pricing!